Our life can be happier day by day. Our attitude determines whether we feel happy or unhappy. We will encounter various things everyday, something do nothing good to our sense of happiness. To those unhappy things, we have the right to choose whether to involve them in our mind or not; To those happy things, we also have the right to choose whether to enjoy them or not——all are determined by ourselves. Everyday we go through lots of things. We will be the slave of the world if we allow our emotion be affected by the things happened around us. In this way, our fate will be controlled by the outside? For another aspect, we can completely be free from the affect of the outside world. Let our life be happy and we can do lots of things to make us feel more happier.
What is happiness? Different people have different experiences. In my view, happiness is a kind of feeling, a kind of calm of our heart and a sense of satisfaction, it is a kind of worriless、dreadless、and without any complicated thinkings. We feel happy when the things we have done are something we like to do, besides, it was paid off by something which was thought to be worthy. Happiness seems like the result of something good, actually it is a kind of hearty feeling induced by outside. To most people, happiness is changable, because their lives always affected by the influences from outside. And the best way to maintain happiness is to practise everyday to be calm in mind; a mind of calm easily facilitate a habit of can't stop choosing happiness.
Firstly, you should try to change the perspective of problems, let us always see the positive aspects. Don't trap yourselves in something negative or difficult.
Secondly, you should think about methods to solve the problems, Don't always think about the problem itself.
Thirdly, you should listen to some relax and invigorative music.
Fourthly, you should see some interesting comedy、opusculum or comic dialogue.
Fiftyly, you should spend some time everyday to read invigorative books or articles.
Sixthly, you should be cautious of your mind dynamic. Once you think of something bad, stop as soon as possible and turn to something happy.
Seventhly, you should think about something you have done, don't think something you haven't done. As you get up, you should have thought of several things you need to do, and you will feel unhappy or very depressed, which is due to the fact that the tasks you planed in the morning haven't been completely finished yet. You should think of those things you have done instead of those haven't. You may do lots of thing everyday, and your emotion will be affected by the facts that only a few tasks haven't been finished. It is unfair to you.
Eighthly, you should do something good for you everyday, even some bagatelles, such as buy yourself a book、eat something you like、watch a TV program or movie you like, take a walk along the street etc.
Ninthly, you should do at least one thing that make you happy, for example, your words warm your friend, you may stop in the crossing to let the passerbys go first, and you may vacate the seat for others on bus, or you can give a small present to whom you like. When you make others happy, you will feel the same, and others will make you so.
Tenthly, you should always expect the happy things to happen.
Eleventhly, you should not envy those happy ones, Instead, you should be happy for others' happiness.
Twelvethly, you should comtact with the people who are happy, and learn from them to make you happy. Don't forget, happiness can be infected.
Thirteenthly, you should cheer you up when something are not carried out in their original ways. Make yourself detached will help you calm down, make you control your emotions. It is not numb, it is something that will help you to accept things no matter they are good or bad, in this way, you will get a feeling of balance. It does something with the mind of calm, the happiness is possible once your mind calms down.