Solitude, unbearable and darkling as boundless night, materializes a state of lornness--From path to path, no one in sight.① However, it is the unbearableness that shows the powerful soul of the being who friends with solitude.  As for solitude, you cannot erase it like wiping away dust but to confront it, since solitude is an irremovable gloom in heart. How to confront solitude? As is anwsered by Zhou Guoping②, "People often regard communication as a competence, while they neglect being alone is the same; even to some extent, it exceeds the former. On the contrary, although it's no doubt a pity being insociable, being intolerable to loneliness will never make you perfect." Individualy I applaud for this. The most complicated persons isn't "others" but "ourselves". Only the self could perceive the selfhood wrapped by the flesh.

Once your choice is correct, it more or less makes you feel lonely. The essence is that the majority seldom hold the truth, of no matter what fields.

Certainly, there is always the minority doing the right thing.

When you read without any word skipped over, countless people consider perusal  outdated in the era of information explosion, and deem speedreading and extensive reading efficient. Nevertheless, they are ignorant of the fact that reading speed will spontaneously accelerate after longtime perusing; while the so called speedreading and extensive reading actually save time at the cost of omitting information (even in large quantity).

When you determine to exercise in gyms in order to lose weight, numerous people don't understand it and even advise you to have an acupuncture therapy with them. They will say, "Exercise will exhaust you!" --In fact, you will be full of energy after twenty-minute exercising; or say, " Running will thicken your legs!"--That result, however, comes from running just a short period of time and giving up easily.

When you are doing preparation to study abroad, holding the notion that you can pass the exam only with your competence and master of knowledge, more and more people are buried in finding various shortcuts.  They will tell you, who is earnestly reading, "What's the age it is? It's an age when you can get the right answer merely through skills rather than reading the text. Don't believe that? I'll prove it." Actually, those so called skills or shortcuts could never help you solve every question, at best, only a part of that (normally, less than 51 percent). In the entrance exam for foreign education, you should make out more than 90 percent keys.

When you finish work and begin to restart your English learning which you've ceased for a long time for you know the importance of it with long time of working experience, you will hear the words like, "Chinese just speak Chinese. There's no need wasting time and energy to worship foreign culture." The reason is that they can't speak English. If they can, they won't say something like that.  Having one more language at your fingers provides more accessibilities to another world.

The capacity and the springboard of analizing risks and profits varies from individual to individual. A phenomenon may pop up therewith: For the best, people surronding you may prevent you dealing with the goal beneficial which they consider harmful. Despite that it's a rare situation, it really exists, especially in the life of those who never give up and always persevere in there decisions. Thus, it's inevitable to hold such an attitude--Do your business silently. Period, and never mind whether others knowing about it.

In addition to obstacle and misunderstanding, the reason why many people find out how the wind blows when you meet risks just because they want to use the result to measure the safe degree of the ventures for themselves. Now, I don't consider them despicable, nor impairer to me. If my experience could help others, why not set it as a model? But I realize the truth after years of entanglement in my mind. I still remember when I was young, that attitude and behaviour caused many negative influences on "unenlightened" me. At the same time, I felicitate myself for the enlightenment and never being affected by these influences again. Moreover, I clearly understand that they have no fault and it's just a sort of style.

Maybe some people are lucky and born with talent, they failed and got experience when they were young and got rid of lots of burdens henceforth. Because they  try to seize their goal without telling others. They don't discuss their tasks with others for they've known that it won't help them more; instead, it will waste their time. They've even been accustomed of misstatement. When you ask, "What are you doing?" they'll answer, "well, just in a daze..." If you ask, " What did you do these days?", their answer will be, "Nothing..." While being admired, "Wow, how can you do that?", "I feel odd, too..."says them "modestly". It's a pity that we didn't understand the meaning behind their words and even believed in them when we were children. On one hand, our confidence were frustrated; on the other hand, we childishly thought being "in a daze" or "at grass" might recieve surprise.

Sometimes, solitude do not harm you for being in solitude can help you concentrate on your business. The reason why many people accomplish nothing roots in the fact that they spend so much time socializing themselves that they haven't enough time and energy for the most important goal, which, as we said former, we persist with one hundred percent effort.

It's unnecessary to "endure" solitude if we are aware of the finiteness of time as well as the reality of our aim, the correctness of our action, and the feasibility of our plan.  Just as last time, we saw if we persist our goal with one hundred percent effort, "persistence" will be replaced by "spontaneousness", and "continuing on" will take the place of "waiting", once we perceive the essence of solitude, the negative feeling will disappear, and "enjoyment" may substitute "endurance". For the most time, the emergence of negative emotion is led by lack of deep consideration. via

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