“记得当时年纪小/你爱聊天/我爱笑/有一回并肩坐在桃树下/风在林梢鸟儿在叫/我们不知怎样睡着了/梦里花落知多少。”儿时，我们的 幸福好简单，也许是因为一起上树掏鸟窝，也许是来源于石头、剪刀、布的游戏；少年时代，我们心底涌起了一些说不清道不明的小秘密，只愿意和最亲密的朋友分享心事，少年也识愁滋味，只是这种淡淡的哀愁或许是为了吸引别人目光而故意玩的小把戏，很容易被吹散在风中，被成长的喜悦代替；当我们终于迈入成年人的阵 营后，却悲哀地发现，幸福变得那么复杂，那么功利，那么困难，工作上的挫折、生活上的琐事、情感上的纠葛，让我们更多抱怨、不满甚至震怒，幸福，仿佛变成很严肃重大的事情，仔细想来，结婚、乔迁、升职，我们是真是幸福么？我们真的珍惜这幸福的时刻了么？还是在短暂的幸福之后陷入更大的不满足之中？
不禁苦苦思量，到底什么是幸福，我们为什么而感到幸福！
有人说：幸福是因为得到！那为什么，满眼看到的，皆是得到很多却毫不幸福的人群？朋友小惠，老公家产千万，是很多人羡慕的对象，却告诉我，她不快乐，因为和她在一个圈子里的阔太太们家底都还比她殷实很多！古人曰：不以物喜，不以己悲，告诫我们不要因为一时的得失而大悲大喜，真正的幸福， 并非来自身外之物。
幸福不能建立在别人的痛苦之上，也不能仰仗别人。女友璇，爱上一个男人，以他的喜为喜，以他的悲为悲，这样将感受幸福的权利完全交给了别人，无法自己掌控，失去了自己，还能拥有那个男人吗？幸福的感觉，应该是一种积极乐观的生活态度，渗透在日常生活中，影响着个人性格和人生发展。人生际 遇高低起伏，有时难免失意，我们唯一能掌控的是自己的内心，让它充满力量和感受幸福的能力，自己给自己一些小喜悦走出消沉状态，如果此时有亲人朋友肯帮助你走出困境，那你就更应感到幸福，因为亲人、朋友、爱人的关爱就是世间最难得的！那两年，我和男友都刚刚上班，搬过几次家，住过各式各样的房屋：在那个没 有窗户的小房间里，微弱的灯光照耀着我们小小的幸福，小屋布置得简单而温馨，早晨他骑着自行车送我到学校再去上班，晚上我用一个简易电磁锅煮好粥等待他。那段日子可以说很艰苦，但因为我们的爱情却充满了两情缱绻的快乐。家，并不是一座漂亮的花园别墅，而是一种把家人紧紧联结在一起的力量，爱的力量，哪里有 爱，哪里就是家，哪里就有幸福！
我恍然大悟，真正的幸福，来自于天人合一自然的感动，来自于自己充实的内心——幸福，来自内心，从心开始！
译文:
Where's Happiness? Inside Our Mind
“I remember when we were young / You love chatting / I love smile / Once we sat side by side under the peach / With wind blowing and bird chirping / We fell asleep unconsciously / How many fallen flowers in the dream ” In childhood, we owed our happiness simply to the game of picking the bird nest on the tree or the “stone-scissor-cloth” game. In our youth, with some unspeakable little secrets lurking in our heart, we only loved to share with our closest friends. We tasted sorrow’s flavors in our young days, but the gentle sorrow, which might be nothing but a trick played to attract others’ eye, was easy to disappear in the wind and replaced by the joy of growing. When we finally reached the middle age, we found to our sadness that happiness became so complicated, utilitarian and difficult. Frustration in work, trivia in life and romantic entanglement brought us more complaints, discontentment and even fury. Happiness, for us, seemed to be greatly serious. On reflection of marriage, house-warming and promotion, have we really felt happy? Have we cherished the happy moment or have we fallen again into greater discontentment after enjoying the transient happiness?
We couldn’t help mediating on what on earth is happiness and why we feel happy.
Someone says happiness lies in your acquisition. Then why are there large crowds who don’t feel happy even with so much wealth? My friend, Xiao Hui, whose husband had easy fortune, is envy of many people. But she told me she didn’t feel happy because those rich ladies in the same social circle possessed much more estate. The ancients said, “Not pleased by external gains, not saddened by personal losses”. The saying warns us not to be sad or happy about gains or losses. The real happiness does not come from worldly possessions.
We should not base our happiness on the sorrow of others, nor do we count on happiness from others. One of my girl friends, Xuan, fell in love with a man. She was pleased by his happiness and saddened by his sadness. In this way, she couldn’t control her own happiness by handing the right to feel it to others, thus losing herself. Was she still in high favor with that man? The sense of happiness, which should be a positive and optimistic manner of life, is penetrated in daily life and has an influence on personal character and life development. Life is full of ups and downs. It is inevitable that sometimes we may feel disappointed or frustrated. At this time, the only control to which we can bring is our inner mind. We can make it filled with power and ability to feel happy. We can extricate ourselves from the state of depression by treating ourselves to some joyance. If, at this moment, your relatives or friends are willing to help you out of trouble, you will feel happier, for love and care from relatives, friends and lovers is the most valuable in the world. I remember those two years when my boyfriend and I had just got work before we made several removals and lived houses of different styles. With the faint light of happiness brightening up the windowless room, our little house was decorated simply but warmly. In the morning he would ride a bike to send me to school before work and in the evening I would wait for his coming with a pan of porridge cooked on the simple induction cooker. We led a hard time in those days, but our romantic love was full of sweetness and joyance. Home, is not a beautiful garden villa, but a power of love holding families together closely. Where there is love, there is home and happiness.
It suddenly dawned on me that the real happiness lies in the sensation of the unity of man and nature and our interior abundance. Happiness comes from inside mind from which it starts.