原文: 10 Ways an Unattractive Guy Can Win the Girl of His Dreams

1. Enter cautiously into her life. If you barge into her affairs too quickly, the girl of your attraction will likely label you a stalker and avoid your presence. Instead, slowly expose her to your existence. Think of an excuse to talk to her online, find a reason to facebook her and leave a wall post commenting on her page, or get a friend to subtly slip your name into a conversation. Once she acknowledges that you're a solid, breathing individual, you can slowly build up a relationship.
2. Do your best to improve your physical attractiveness. Maybe you have severe acne, possess a crooked nose, or stand at only 5'2. Despite your most grotesque faults, there are always ways you can improve your physical appearance. If you have acne, use makeup to cover the worst of it. If you're shorter than 95% of the other males in the universe, buy shoes that increase your height. No matter how enormous of a physical deficit you possess, you can always have a clean, shaven appearance. Shower regularly. Keep your hair trimmed. Use cologne. Females expect their potential life partners to have good hygiene, so even if you lack attractive physical qualities, you can at least carry a pleasing odor.
3. Improve your body language. Women are naturally attracted to men who appear strong, confident, and able to defend future offspring. Ensure that you don't hunch over when you walk. Throw back your shoulders, walk deliberately. You'll automatically appear more attractive.
4. Learn to assert dominance. Women want men that appear high on the social ladder. When you enter a room, learn to claim territory. If you're sitting, claim an object in front of you by propping your feet up on the object. If you're standing, lean on a wall, elongate your body, and invade as much space as possible without appearing rude or inconsiderate. Check out some more information about dominance in groups of males. 
5. Meet her while doing physical activity. Invite her on a hike or a bike ride. Physical activity increases heart rate and automatically makes the other gender appear more attractive. Even if you lack a magnetic physical appearance, a quick stroll around the nearest park might allow her to see past your faults.
6. Engage your humor. Find out what sort of jokes she appreciates. Does she laugh at puns? Sarcasm? Once you find out her humor style, attempt to play the role of comedian. If she laughs at your jokes, you're on the right path to winning her affection. Humor can easily make up for a lack of physical attractiveness.
7. Be sensitive to her problems. As you interact with her, allow her to do the talking and employ active listening to show that you genuinely care about what she says. When she lectures you about Foo-Foo's favorite brand of cat nip, don't try to change the subject. Instead, ask about Foo-Foo's latest trip to the vet or his favorite bedtime story. Though other guys may have that extra inch of height or those six-pack abs, your sensitivity shows that you're willing to discuss the topics that interest her-and that you stand out from the other guys.
8. Act professional. If you go to a restaurant, be courteous to the waiter or waitress. Don't make a scene when you have to wait 30 minutes for a table. Open doors for her. Bring a calculator so that you can calculate the correct tip. Acting professional will automatically make you appear more attractive.
9. Interact with her when she's in a good mood, and give her space when she's not. If you interact with her when she's in a good state of mind, she will associate you with positive emotions rather than negative ones. This will lead her to appreciate her presence and may allow a relationship to blossom.
10. Maintain distance. When you do strike a relationship with her, avoid talking to her every half hour. Don't text her with stupid messages at 1 am, don't become a consistent presence on her doorstep. If you interact with her too much, she will take the relationship for granted and the passion will die. Instead, maintain distance and retain the sacredness of communication.
    

译文: 10种平凡男士赢得梦想中女孩的方法

1.   小心地进入她的生活。如果你太快地介入她的生活中，那个吸引你的女孩可能会给你贴上纠缠不休者的标签并且回避你。相反，你应该慢慢地让她知道你的存在。想出一个和她在线谈话的理由，找到一个可以在脸谱网（译者注：脸谱网是由 Mark Zuckerberg 于2004年创办的大型社交网站，域名http://www.facebook.com/)和她碰面的理由并且对她的网页回帖评论，或者让一个朋友把你的名字微妙地放入到一场对话中。一旦她承认你是一个实实在在的，会呼吸的个体，你就可以慢慢地建立关系了。

2.   尽你一切努力提升自己外表上的吸引力。也许你有严重的粉刺，有一个歪鼻子，或者站起来只有5英尺2英寸。除了离奇地有缺陷外，你总会有方法来提升自己的外观的。如果你有粉刺，那就化妆一下把最难看的部分掩饰住。如果你比世界上其他95%的男性矮的话，就购买能增加你高度的鞋子。不管你生理上的缺陷有多么大，你总可以有一副干净整洁的样子。要经常洗澡。注意修剪头发。使用哥龙香水。女性期望她们潜在的生活伴侣能有讲卫生的好习惯，因此即使你缺少外表上吸引人的特质，你至少还能带有令人愉快的气味。

3.   提升你的肢体语言。女人自然喜欢显得强壮，自信以及能够保护未来子女的男人。务必保证你走路时不要驼背。要昂首挺胸，大踏步地走。你自动地就会显得有吸引力。

4.   学会霸占。女人想要在社会阶梯中显得高高在上的男人。当你走进一间屋子时，要学会霸占领地。如果你正坐着，就支起你的脚对这在你面前要霸占的物品。如果你正站着，那就靠在墙上，伸直你的身体，并且在不显得粗鲁和不顾旁人的情况下尽可能地占用更多的空间。关于男性群体中的支配地位你可以查阅更多的信息。

5.   做体力活动的时候和她碰面。邀请她徒步远足或者骑自行车。体力活动会增加心跳速率并且自动使得异性显得更有吸引力。即便是你缺少外表上的吸引力，在最近的公园快速溜达可能会让她忽略你的缺陷。

6.   使用你的幽默。搞清楚她喜欢那种类型的笑话。她会为双关语发笑吗？讽刺？一旦你发现她喜欢的幽默类型，那就尝试做一个喜剧演员吧。如果她为你的笑话而发笑，你赢得她芳心的路子就对了。幽默很容易补偿外表上的缺乏吸引力。

7.   对她的问题一定要敏感。当你和她交流时，让她说话并且用主动倾听显示你真正关心她所说的。当她长篇大论地对你讲关于福福（译者注：福福Foo-Foo是一个兔子的卡通形象）最喜欢的猫薄荷品牌时，不要尝试去改变话题。相反，你应该问一问关于福福最近去看的兽医或者他最喜欢的床头故事的情况。尽管其他人可能比你高一英寸或者拥有完美的腹部肌肉，你的敏感显示出你愿意讨论她感兴趣的话题-并且也显现你的脱颖而出。

8.   表现得职业化。如果你去一家餐馆，对男招待或女招待要有礼貌。当你得等30分钟才上菜时，也不要显得不耐烦。为她开门。带一个计算器好计算正确的小费。表现得职业化会自动地使你显得更有吸引力。

9.   在她心情好的时候和她交流，当她心情不好的时候给她空间。如果你在她心情好的时候跟她流，她会把你和积极的情绪联系起来而不是消极情绪。这会使得她喜欢你的出现（译者注：原文作"her presence",意为她的出现，但本人认为不符逻辑，在此译为“你的出现”）并且允许你们的关系开花结果。

10.   保持距离。当你和她搞得火热起来时，要避免每半个小时就和她讲话。不要在凌晨1点的时候发愚蠢的短信，不要总是出现在她家门前。如果你和她交流太频繁，她会认为你们的关系是确定的并且激情也就消退了。相反，要保持距离和交流的神圣感。