Distressed and disappointed are how most of us feel when we find out that a child has lied to us. Rather than get angry and upset, try to stay calm and confront the problem head on.
When you catch your child lying, discipline him or her with a negative consequence (use time out, deny TV privileges or take away a favorite toy). Explain the importance of trust, and ask your child to work with you on building trust.
Give your child the opportunity to practice being honest by setting him or her up for success, knowing the truth ahead of time but allowing your child to respond honestly. When your child responds truthfully, reward him or her with a positive consequence (something your child enjoys). Make sure your child understands that the reward was for being honest.
Remember: Children learn what they live. If you expect honesty from your children, then you need to be honest, too.
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如何让孩子不再说谎
当小孩撒谎的时候，大多数父母都会感到伤心失望。但与其对孩子发火或一味沮丧，倒不如冷静地面对问题。
如果您的孩子撒了谎，那么就试着用反面的手法来教育他们，比如说限制他/她看电视的时间，或是没收他/她心爱的玩具。解释并让他们知道信任的重要性，还要您的孩子和您一起工作以便建立信任度。
给您的孩子一个机会让他/她知道诚实是成功的基础，让他们知道提早认清这个事实，但也要给他/她机会来对诚实做出各种反应。如果您的孩子表现得诚实，那么就给予奖励，比如能让您的孩子高兴的事或礼物。要确保您的孩子明白这种奖励是来源于他们的诚实。
要记住：孩子们往往都是从生活中学习的。如果您期望您的孩子变得诚实，那么至少您应该以身作则。