Eight Laws to Make Your Marriage Happy

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原文: 让婚姻更加幸福美满的8大定律

        爱河里找不到成功的捷径,婚姻中没有绝对的金科玉律,不过有些方法,可能让婚姻更幸福美满!

  糊涂定律

  婚前,双眼都要睁开;婚后,睁一只眼,闭一只眼。小地方就不妨任他去,不要企图改造对方,不要企图将对方变成另一个你。越聪明的女人,越知道幸福婚姻需要模糊地带。

  倾听定律

  倾听比诉说更重要。倾听是指站在对方的立场,用心去了解对方的口语与非口语所表述的信息,然后对所听到、观察到的,作出适当的反应,让对方知道你在听,也会让对方感受到尊重。

  争吵定律

  争吵的最好结局是达成新的谅解,争吵的危险倾向是算旧账,翻老底。懂得撒娇比剑拔弩张更实用。

  保密定律

  任何一对生活在同一屋檐下的夫妻,不可能不发生摩擦,有时甚至相互冲突。因此,不要向朋友暴露这些不快之事。亲戚朋友有时会以同情的方式,为你出一些带有偏见的主意,任何有损于你们夫妻之间关系的建议,都是错误的。

  遗忘定律

  当天的事情当天了结,不要记在心上。

  保险定律

  旧时情人是一种极具杀伤力的武器,随时会导致严重后果。想保护好自己的爱情,没有比和对方的旧时情人成为朋友更好的办法了。把她和他的联系,变成两个家庭的联系,把所有隐私的关系变得透明,不失为明智之举。

  多少定律

  少点儿争吵,多点儿沟通;少擅自做主,多点儿商量;少吩咐,多动手;少批评,多鼓励。

  左右手定律

  婚后左手风花雪月,右手油盐酱醋,才能让爱情和婚姻的大厦变得稳固、坚不可摧。

译文: Eight Laws to Make Your Marriage Happy

Eight Laws to Make Your Marriage Better

There is no royal road to success in the river of love. There is no absolute golden rules in marriage. But some ways may make your marriage happier.

Confusing Law

Keep your eyes open before you wed and halfclosed thereafter. Let it be if he has some bad habits, but don’t attempt to rebuild him or even change him into another you.  The cleverer a woman is, the more she knows a healthy marriage needs some vague region.

Listening Law

Listening is more important than complaining in that the former means you should try to understand your another half standing in his shoes. Make proper response to what you have heard or observed. In this way, he wil know you are listening and showing your respect.

Quarrelling Law

Quarrelling ends well with good understanding, but it has a dangerous tendency ending with the upracking of old differences. Knowing how to play the woman is more practical than becoming explosive.

Law of keeping secret

Any couple living under the same roof can quarrel with each other, sometimes even emerge conflicts. Therefore, do not confide in such unpleasant trivials to your friends. Relatives or friends may give you some unreasonable ideas out of sympathy at times. Any suggestion which hurts your feeling is wrong.

Forgetting Law

Forget what happens on the day and never keep it in mind.

Assurance Law

Your past lover is a kind of destructive weapon, which may lead to severe consequence. If you want to protect your love, there is no better way than to make friends with the other’s past lover. It is a wise way to change the relation between her and him into that of two families, thus underlying affairs reveal clearly.

Quantity Law

Fewer unauthorized decisions, and more discussions; fewer orders, and more hands; less criticism and more encouragement.

Hands Law

After marriage, the balance between retaining romantic love and living a real life makes it possible for your love and marriage to become stable and invulnerable.