性生活不是一方对另一方的“给予”或一方简单的“接受”，男女双方都有责任和义务成为性生活中的主角。那么，如何达到性生活的美满和谐呢?这需要夫妻双方的共同努力。
1、和谐的日常生活有助于促进性生活的美满。日常生活中，夫妻之间相互关照，彼此了解，是加强夫妻感情，融洽情调，增进亲密感的最好办法。
2、对自己的性快感负责。主要是针对妻子而言，妻子有权对自己的性快感提出主动的要求。当精神不好、身体欠佳时，应该婉言谢绝丈夫。在性生活中，要自己为自己找快感，并努力使丈夫明白自己的需求。
3、不断改变性生活的方式。长期用一种方式，容易产生厌倦感。双方应不断创新，可以尝试不同时间、不同环境、不同进行地点、不同姿势等。
4、不要等待性高潮。女性在难以达到性高潮时，不妨试试其它的性生活方式，如自我触摸刺激、看些带性内容的书画等，这样也许会有所帮助。
5、应有适当的性幻想。这样，可以增加双方的性快感。
6、不要将不满情绪带入性生活。如果因一时争吵、生闷气及发牢骚等，而在性生活中不配合对方，或暂时中止性生活，都会给今后的性生活带来隐患。
7、有性生活问题要及时请教专家。如一方有性方面的问题，切不可怕羞而讳疾忌医，否则会带来更多的家庭烦恼。
8、不要次次都求完美。有的人(特别是男人)总期望每一次性生活都完美无缺，否则不是自责就是责备对方。要知道，就是这方面的专家也难以做到次次都完美。
9、不要把一时的性生活失败看得过重。男子一时性阳痿，女性偶然达不到性高潮，都是正常现象，不必时时挂在心上，以免产生焦虑、紧张等，给以后的性生活带来负面影响。
10、营造和谐的性爱环境。和谐的性环境对性生活的美满程度有着积极的促进作用。杂乱的居室、噪音的干扰、无隔离的设施等，都会严重地影响性生活的质量和数量。
译文:
Ten Ways to Power Your Sex
Sex is neither the "giving" from one to the other nor the simple "accepting" of one. Both man and woman shoulder the responsibility and obligation to become the leading acter or actress in sexual life. So, how to achieve the excellence and harmony of sexual life? It depends on the multual effort of the couples.
1. Harmonious daily life conduces to the excellent sexual life. In dialy life, the couples take care of each other and understand their spouse, which is the best way to strengthen their sentiment, harmonize emotional appeal and enhance intimacy.
2. To be responsible to your own sexual large charge. In allusion to the wives mainly, they hold the right to actively acquire their own sexual large charge. They should refuse husbands' requirement with gentle words when they aren't mentally or physically high.
3. To change the style of sexual life at times. It tends to be boring if you keep one style for a long period. Both of you should be innovative and try to make different time, different environments, different places and also different poses.
4.Don't wait for sexual climax. When it is hard for ladies to reach the orgasm, you might try other style as well, such as self-touch and stimulate, reading books and pictures with sexual content, which may give some help.
5. You should have proper sexual illusion. It is supposed to increase the sexual large charge of both sides.
6.Don't bring dissatisfaction into sexual life. If you don't cooperate with your spouse or deepfreeze sex, because of temporary quarrel, bad temper or complainment, you will also bring hidden trouble into your later sexual life.
7. Refer to experts once coming across sexual problems. If one side has some sexual problem, don't be shy and avoild by all means concealing his fault for fear of criticism. Otherwise, more family annoyances will be taken into life.
8. Don't pursue to be perfect everytime. Some persons(especially men) always expect every sexual experience perfect. If not, they will either blame themselves or their wives. You should keep it in mind that even the experts in this field couldn't promise all-time-perfect.
9. Don't overcare about temporary failure of sexual life. The once ED for men or the failure to the orgasm for women is too common to remember all the time. Don't be anxious or intensive about it, for fear the later sexual life will be affected negatively.
10. To create a harmonious environment for sex. It will passively facilitate the degree of sex if you have sex under a harmonious atmosphere. The mussy bedroom, disturbing of noise and no isolated establishment will badly influence the quality and quantity of sexual life.