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Learn to Give up is Learn to Choose
Everyone of us doesn’t want to give up,because giving up is always closely connected with a sort of emotion,that is,parting with something is always very hard. Thinking of giving up,we would naturally associate it with many difficulties. So when we have a discussion in a forum, our friends always talk about the difficulties they meet when they try to abandon something.
Giving up is hard,perhaps it is because we have to compare and weigh the gains and losses when we want to abandon something. But actually giving up is connected with having a new choice, just as we always say that having a new choice is closely related to giving up. When we give up, we are making a choice. In our life choices frequently and repeatedly come to visit us . The minor ones are what to eat,which bus to take, what clothes to wear and what to say. The important ones are what career to choose, what kind of boy/girlfriend to seek, which sort of car to buy and what kind of house to buy.We are always making a choice. A Choice is usually the decision we make when we have already given up other possibilities.
Some friends say that giving up is difficult. Maybe it is because there are all kinds of possibilities from which you can choose, or they want to have the best choice.Perhaps the information is not enough, or they feel that future is very unpredictable after they give up what they own. They are afraid that they will have regret in the future. But we haven’t realized that we seems to have a long-standing mistaken concept. We all hope that no matter choosing or abandoning, everything should be perfect and there is no regret. However in fact, most of the time we have no choice but to give up, even though we are not willing to do it. As the well-known proverb says,we can’t get the fish and the bear’s paw at the same time.
Most of the time,we really don’t know whether our decision to give up is appropriate or not.Once giving up, we can not retrieve the situation. Rather than hesitate, it would be better to give up right away.We must think and contemplate thoroughly,once we have decided ,we will not regret. Actually there is no use to regret. Making a decision to give up something is very hard, but important. However,once we have decided,we should face it bravely without hesitation, regret and roaming. If we can do it like this,it will make our decision more valuable.This is more important and more crucial.
As a matter of fact,learn to give up is a kind of wisdom in life. Most of the time, we have to adopt and discard. Choosing something in essence is a kind of abandonment, and we must face the abandonment.No abandonment,no gain.Only when you can give up something, you can gain something.Gain and loss always go hand in hand. If there is no abandonment, how can you gain something?Giving up actively and opportunely,you can gain more.This is not only the philosophy of life, but also the reality of life. In our life, many people want to be successful and outstanding, so they must persuade themselves to give up comfort and easiness. Almost every success is achieved by extremely painstaking effort and toil. If you choose comfort and leisure, you must persuade yourself to give up success and fame. But we always want to become successful easily without too much pain and hard work . In fact, we don’t want to give up comfort and success. Well, if you want to have everything, then you will have nothing. You can only sign and worry in vain.
We have talked so much, here can we say learn to give up is learn to choose? Let’s find the answer together……
First, we must fully understand ourselves.We must know what we value more.When we want to give up something,we need to weigh the losses and gains.We must weigh the losses and gains according to our reality and our important needs. When you are clear about this, you will know what is relatively less important and what you should give up. Second, you must be very clear about your own bottom line,that is the price that you have to endure and bear after you have given up something.If you know the degree to which you can yield,you will make your choice leisurely.You can even make a decision without hesitation.No matter what happens, I will face it bravely.Then you should have a good state of mind to confront your own decision. Once you have given something up, you must never regret about it. You will gradually discover that your abandonment is valuable, and your new choice is also valuable. Only when you can confront it wholeheartedly, can you fully bring your aptitude into play. You should do your best on your new choice,and it is also a good way of reducing the possible regret.
Life is not a one-way road, so don’t hesitate before you give something up, and don’t regret after you have abandoned it. You can still strike forward singing songs of triumph on the fast lane of life.